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MEMORIES NEWSLETTER AUGUST 2010
 
Thanksgiving for the survival of Fr Michael Lapsley,SSM

written by Jo-Anne Smetherham (May 2010)

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Justice - Memory - Healing:

Paths to Reconciliation

Wednesday, 2 December 2009, 7.30 pm

Church of the Trinity, 5 rue de la Congregation, Luxembourg
Father Michael Lapsley, SSM


In a few days the world will be celebrating the 61st anniversary of  the Universal Declaration of Human rights 

It is easy to be depressed about the state of the world or equally tempting to be falsely optimistic.

I pray that my message will be one of hope, recognising, that Easter Day follows Good Friday as certainly as day follows night.

These last couple of months with my colleague, Madoda Gcwadi, I have been in the United States.

I met a man called Riley.  He is what in the US is called a nurse practitioner. He was sent to Iraq and was stationed at the hospital in  Abu Graib.- a place which has become synonymous with torture.   When he first arrived in Iraq he was told by a chaplain that because Iraq was not officially   at war, the Geneva convention did not apply.  By sharp contrast the person responsible for the hospital told him and his fellow nurses: You will treat everyone who comes into this hospital as a human being.  Most of them will be innocent victims, a few will be those who will wish to kill you.   You will treat them all as human beings.  

That officer was gotten rid of from the military.  Nevertheless I am sure that he sleeps peacefully  at night.   When Riley told me the story he said quietly,. “I ask myself if I was in that position as the one above me was, would I have had the courage to say what he said.  We can ask ourselves the same question?  .

Sometimes fighting for human rights takes only our time and our energy.  Sometimes it can cost you

your life 

Jesus  was a human rights activist. If you read the New Testament it is clear that Jesus interacted

with all human beings as worthy of dignity and respect even those regarded as “beyond the pale”  by 

his society – sex workers, outcasts, lepers, foreign occupiers. We see especially how Jesus treated women and children.

St Paul in the letter to the Galatians said that in Christ there is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free,

male nor female, we are all one in Christ.   We Christians have been quite slow learners It took us more than 1800 years to decide that slavery was not a good idea.  I live in one of the most beautiful cities in the world after Luxembourg – Cape Town.  Only recently I learnt that in the 18th century, there were more slaves in Cape Town than free people.

In the 20th century we had modern day slavery in the form of apartheid.  Inside South Africa, Christians, Moslems, Jesws, Hindus, African traditionalists and secular people joined together to defeat Apartheid.  The international Christian community declared apartheid to be a false doctrine -a heresy.  In our country torture became endemic under apartheid. It still lingers on in some of our police stations.

Archbishop Desmond Tutu has said that during our struggle for freedom there was no country and a people who were prayed for so much as the people of South Africa.  Today we are just at the beginning of building a new society – dealing with the economic, social, psychological and spiritual

legacy of apartheid. 

And what of the rights of women – I  am told that women got the vote in 1919. here in Luxembourg. Overcoming patriarchy still has a long journey to travel  Formal rights are one thing, the substance is another.

Today many of our churches continue to tear ourselves apart as to whether the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgendered are equally entitled to their place in the sun.  I am so proud that my country South Africa was the first country in the world to outlaw in its constitution discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation.  I am so ashamed that black lesbians in poorer communities in South Africa  are still subject to violence and rape.

10 days ago we were in Haiti listening to the stories of women whose adult sons were killed in front of their eyes in a massacre in 2006.. One of  the women said, I have been humiliated all my life. Her words cut through me imprinting on my body as well as my soul. The mothers came with photos of their dead children to show us.

I just prayed that in some small way, by the way we treated those women, they had a glimpse of a God who loves and values us all,  with great tenderness.   We learnt that the perpetrators, many of them police officers, were arrested and then released without going to trial.  There are also more than 3000 people detained without trial in Haiti as we were told by a human rights lawyer.  

The young human rights  lawyer, Mr Elred Fanfan was a shining example of hope and source of comfort both for the mothers and all seeking the return of the rule of law.

Over the years I have come to see that all of us are against all forms of oppression except the ones we are in favour of.  How about you, do you make exceptions – are there some forms of oppression  which you justify?

I have also realised that there are “popular” victims and “unpopular” victims.  In one period of history, a group of victims maybe very popular, but when the victims continue to insist that noone has attended to their needs adequately the same group becomes quickly unpopular.  When it comes to torture often the victims are people whom society despises such as those who have committed terrible crimes.  We see it in hate crimes against same gender loving persons.   

Jesus was also a torture victim – and as is so often the case an innocent victim of torture.  We Christians follow the tortured one,  For us, torture can never be an unimportant issue. Because we believe that all human beings have been made in God's image and likeness, when we torture we are attacking the divine image.

Thank you ACAT for all you are doing in the name of Christ.  .

However if we want the human family to live in peace, we need to grasp that the future of humanity is an interfaith future – and to learn not just to tolerate but to reverence other faith traditions. Today there is Islamophobia and millions of Moslems are pilloried for the actions of extremists.

The abuse of faith be it Christian, Buddhist, Moslem, Hindu (or secular) for violent ends is something   contrary to the core teachings of all the great religions. 

In our prayers we have prayed for particular groups of people – dissidents – those who dare to dance to a different drum.. We prayed for those on death row and for the abolition of the death penalty everywhere..  In the United States which still practices this  barbarous form of torture, one state was discussing a more efficient way of executing people just a few days.ago. Soon in the Federal court in New York they will be trying the alleged mastermind of September 11..  My friend Phyllis Rodriguez who is part of September 11 Families for Peaceful Tomorrows and whose son was killed in the Twin Towers, told me she will oppose the death penalty.  It will not bring her son back if another mother cries.

In the US, African Americans make up 12 % of the population but 41% of those on death row.

A high percent of those who do terrible things to others have had terrible things done to them.

One of the places, I have worked is Rwanda.where genocide happened on the altars of churches. Genocide confronts us as human beings with the worst

of what we are capable of doing to other human beings.  Its roots are there wherever we see a group of human beings as not human in the way we are.  How do we act today to prevent the genocides of tomorrow?. Whether in Darfur or Rwanda we still seem to lack the political will to prevent genocide.

I have always experienced Europe as an inviting place when you walk through the front door. For political refugees and undocumented migrants the back door is often a very bitter experience.

Sadly South Africa and my own city of Cape Town is confronted by the reality of xenophobic violence as much as it has reared its ugly head across Europe.

We dare not forget, as Christians, that the infant Christ was a refugee on the continent of Africa.

Only a world with just and fair economic policies will tackle the root causes of migration.  Climate change will exacerbate these challenges

These last weeks I have been reading, The Blindfold's Eyes by Sister Dianna Ortiz.  It is the story of

how during a 24 hour period, this Roman Catholic sister was tortured, raped and forced to do unspeakable acts upon another, and the many years it took for healing to take place.

As a victim of state terrorism myself, it confronted me with my own journey of healing which never

ends. Sister Dianna's story   reminded also me of our  work in Northern Uganda with victims of the Lord's Resistance Army.many of whom like me, lost their limbs 

Dear Sisters and Brothers, tonight we have acknowledged all those who have and continue to suffer

human rights violations.  We have prayed for them.  We must also pray for all people, including ourselves, when we become the victimisers of others.  We pray the healing which breaks he cycle that turns victims into victimisers.

Let us all raise our hands in thanks and praise for all people everywhere who work for human rights.  Let us not forget that we stand on the shoulders of giants – those who fought and sacrificed

in every generation not only for their own rights but also for the rights of others.

My dear friends, to work for human rights is to embrace the human family – to be part of the best form of globalisation 

I believe that the adoption of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights 61 years ago is a sign of the spirit of God working in human history.  The Bible tells us that we are invited to be coworkers with Christ in building God's kingdom.

Jesus the tortured one, the victim of Good Friday became the victor of Easter Day..  When the risen Christ appeared to his disciples, the marks of crucifixion were still visible but no longer bleeding -  they had healed. Christ invites us all, wounded and imperfect as we are,  to be his co-workers in healing and transforming God's world into a home for all.

Please accept my loving embrace to each of you.

Amen 

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October 30, 2009

 

Dear Friends of the Institute,

I am so excited about buying our own home after such a long time. This will be the sacred space where people like Nombulelo Mpiri* can tell their stories. Everyone has a story - a truth - to tell. I want to ask you to help me to contribute to the renovation and refurbishment of our new home, so many others can benefit from this great space.

Nombulelo lives in Masiphumelele, an informal settlement near Fish Hoek. When she feels safe, she speaks of the horrendous effects of xenophobia in her community and is extremely grateful for the healing of memories work that has been done. "l never forget how people came together. It was like God knew himself the right people that had to go to the workshop. I realised that others have bigger burdens than my own."

Every story needs a listener. Nombulelo wants to attend another workshop as she feels that she has much pain to be healed. She worries about the young children in her community. They too need a safe space in which to tell their stories.

In a few days time we will take ownership of our new home. Now is the time for you to contribute to the renovation and refurbishment so that Nombulelo and many others will have a safe space. In return for your generosity, the Institute will honour you with your name on:

  • A brick stone (in one wall of the entrance hall)
  • A tile
  • An engraved metal-plate
  • You can even chose to sponsor an individual room, with your name on a small plaque mounted on the wall in recognition.

Thank you for taking the time to read this letter. I hope you consider making a donation. Of course if you are willing to help us lessen our mortgage I will be overjoyed.

Whatever contribution great or small you are willing to make will be deeply appreciated. Act now and contribute what you can by completing and returning the enclosed pledge form, or making a direct deposit to our bank account.

With prayers and good wishes,

Fr. Michael Lapsley, SSM
Director

PS: Your donation today means so much not only to me and to the Institute, but even more to Nombulelo who needs to tell her story in a safe space.

* Not her real name.

 

 

A new home for the Institute, 5 Eastry Road, Kenilworth

"May God bless you all in your work and give you strength to walk with those who struggle to come to terms with the past."

Patron Archbishop Emeritus, Desmond Tutu

Renovating and furnishing a building is expensive. Please pledge to make an impact through your gift of:

ZAR1,300,000
£102,843
US$168,332
For the building
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£63,288
US$103,589
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ZAR245,000
£19,382
US$31,724
Additions and alterations to existing building
ZAR30,000
£2,373
US$3,885
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£1,938
US$3,172
Plumbing upgrade for the entire building
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£1,028
US$1,683
1 plasma TV
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£1,295
US$791
Blinds for windows
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£712
US$1,165
Audio system
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£633
US$1,036
1 desktop computer
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£633
US$1,036
Couches and coffee tables for passageway
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£554
US$906
Electronic security gates for front door
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£554
US$906
7 computer stands
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£396
US$647
Roving laptop for workshop presentations
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£396
US$647
5 desks with draws for workstations at ZAR1,000 ea
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US$647
1 safe for petty cash and cheque books
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£277
US$453
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£237
US$388
8 floor protector mats at workstations at ZAR375 ea
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£222
US$363
4 filing cabinets at ZAR700 ea
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£158
US$259
Table and chair set for Chief Operating Office's office
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£158
US$259
Pot plants (inside) at R500 ea
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£119
US$194
Wireless ADSL
ZAR1,500
£119
US$194
1 kettle and 1 urn
ZAR1,000
£80
US$130
1 fax machine
ZAR700
£55
US$91
4-plate portable stove with oven
ZAR500
£40
US$65
2 sets each of crockery & cutlery


We are a registered non-profit organisation. Donations are tax exempt in South Africa, Australia, the UK and the USA. For country specific banking details (Australia, New Zealand, UK and USA) please contact Avra Richen (
avra@healingofmemories.co.za), otherwise donations can be made to:


Direct deposits:
Standard Bank, Mowbray Branch
Main Road, Mowbray, Cape Town, 7700
Branch code: 02-49-09
Account name: Institute for Healing of Memories
Account no: 075133164 (Marketlink)
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